Narcissists can now be given the ultimate
title they deserve – a Psychopath
Sarah Strudwick
In a recent article written by the New
York times entitled “A Fate That
Narcissists Will Hate: Being Ignored” according to some professionals Narcissists are about to become an
endangered species.
When I first read his article, like most
other people who are trying to educate people about narcissism I was somewhat alarmed especially as I know how much
damage those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder can do to their victims. However on further investigation I had a look at the new guidelines outlined in
the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (due out in 2013, otherwise known as
DSM-5). The work group is recommending that this disorder be reformulated as the
Antisocial/Psychopathic Type.
It appears that some of the traits of
the narcissistic personality have now been included in what they call the psychopathic type. Apart from
recklessness, impulsivity and aggression which may apply to the narcissist in varying degrees. According to the new
list below the majority of the new traits would fit into the both the psychopathic AND the narcissistic
personality.
From my own experience and those who
have had relationships with those who have had NPD many have the following characteristics although often they may
be loath to admit that their partners were in fact psychopaths. My own personal opinion has always been quite
different. To highlight this I have listed the new guidelines and and highlighted those in blue that a
narcissist are most likely to have. You can see the full criteria changes here
The new list comprises a number of
psychopathic traits i.e.
1. Antagonism: Callousness
Lack of empathy or concern
for others’ feelings or problems; lack of guilt or remorse about the
negative or harmful effects of one’s actions on others; exploitativeness
2.
Antagonism:
Aggression
Being
mean, cruel, or cold-hearted; verbally, relationally, or physically abusive; humiliating and demeaning of others; willingly and wilfully engaging in acts of
violence against persons and objects; active and
open belligerence or vengefulness; using dominance and intimidation to control others
3.Antagonism: Manipulativeness
Use of cunning, craft, or subterfuge to influence or control
others; casual use of others to one’s own advantage; use of seduction, charm, glibness, or ingratiation to
achieve one’s own end
4.Antagonism: Hostility
Irritability, hot temperedness; being unfriendly, rude, surly, or
nasty; responding angrily to minor slights and insults
5.Antagonism: Deceitfulness
Dishonesty, untruthfulness;
embellishment or fabrication when relating events; misrepresentation of self;
fraudulence
6. Antagonism:
Narcissism
Vanity, boastfulness, exaggeration of one’s achievements and
abilities; self-centeredness; feeling and acting entitled, believing that one deserves only the best;
preoccupation with having unlimited success, power, brilliance, and/or beauty
7.Disinhibition: Irresponsibility
Disregard for, or failure to
honor, financial and other obligations or commitments; lack of respect and follow through on agreements and
promises; unreliability; failure
to keep appointments or to complete tasks or assignments; carelessness with own and/or others’
possessions
8.Disinhibition: Recklessness
Craving and pursuit of stimulation and variety without
regard for consequences; boredom proneness and unplanned initiation of activities to counter boredom; unnecessary
risk taking; lack of concern for ones limitations; denial of the reality of personal danger; high tolerance for
uncertainty and unfamiliarity
9.Disinhibition: Impulsivity
Acting on the spur of the moment in response to
immediate stimuli; acting on a momentary basis without a plan or consideration of outcomes; difficulty establishing
and following plans; failure to learn from
experience
Under the older model. The diagnostic
criteria for NPD was that a person had to have 5 or more of the following traits:
-
Has a grandiose sense
of self-importance (e.g. exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior
without commensurate achievements)
-
Is preoccupied with
fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
-
Believes that he or
she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or
high-status people (or institutions)
-
Requires excessive
admiration
-
Has a sense of
entitlement, i.e., they have unreasonable expectations of especially favourable treatment for themselves
or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
-
Is interpersonally
exploitative, i.e. they take advantage of others to achieve his or her own
ends.
-
Lacks empathy and is
unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.
-
Is often envious of
others or believes that others are envious of him or her.
-
Shows arrogant,
haughty behaviours or attitudes
Under the new model they have
a rating system. ie. The person would be either mildly psychopathic with low levels of psychopathic traits or
significantly psychopathic with high level traits.
What's interesting is that
they have called Narcissism an 'Antagonistic' trait. In the past narcissism has always had a somewhat glamorous
title to it which is reflected in the media all the time. We often hear headlines where the press say so and so
is a narcissist. Its flouted around almost as flippantly as if saying that someone is a flirt and that actually
narcissism is OK. Healthy narcissism is but unhealthy narcissism is extremely antagonistic as most people will
know having lived or had an encounter with someone who has NPD. At the extreme end of the Narcissistic
Personality whereby someone does have some of the aggressive traits listed above which would might otherwise
been known as "narcissistic rage" they can easily kill someone.
Perhaps the new rules
and regulations are actually a good thing. Its certainly not going to be very glamorous for people to say they
are a psychopath and as the New York times article rightly says the last thing a narcissist wants to be is
ignored.
In my opinion the narcissist
is now being given the ultimate honour and a title they should have been given a long time ago, that of a
psychopath. It also means that with education more and more people will be able to spot these dangerous
predators and instead of saying “oh they are harmless because they have NPD” people will start to take them and
their victims more seriously.
Sarah Strudwick www.darksouls-thebook.com
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